Becoming a Father Changes Everything
Life is Full of Transitions
Some you see coming. Others arrive without warning—and leave you forever changed.
We move through them all the time:
Grade school to high school.
College to career.
Breakups. Job loss. Personal growth.
Most transitions are manageable.
But some shake your foundation.
For me, the most defining one wasn’t a move, job loss or even a divorce.
It was losing my father—and becoming one without him.
A Fatherless Fatherhood
I grew up in Detroit.
When I was a kid my Dad passed away from colon cancer. I was just 19.
Too young to lose a father.
And too young to understand the weight of that loss.
When my mother told me things from here on out were not optimistic, the first words out of my mouth were - “He’s not going to see his grandchildren.”
Even then, I knew—being a father would one day be the most important thing I’d ever do.
A Life Built. Then Everything Changed
Over the next two decades, I built a life and a career.
I went to Michigan State University and became a night club disc jockey.
I moved to New York, sight unseen.
I studied at NYU’s Music Business program.
Worked at Sony Music. Then New Line Cinema. Then Warner Bros. Entertainment.
By all accounts, I was thriving.
In 2004, I got married.
Became a stepfather to two incredible daughters.
And in 2005, my daughter was born.
That’s when the real work began.
The Tug-of-War No One Prepares You For
Balancing fatherhood with a high-pressure career nearly broke me.
The long commute. The late nights.
Getting home just in time for 90 minutes with my baby before bedtime.
I hated it.
Weekends became sacred, but even then I found myself needing space—just me and my motorcycle—for a breath of freedom.
Not because I didn’t love my family.
But because I was starting to lose myself.
When you’re younger, ambition defines you.
Money. Status. The next achievement.
Then your child is born—and everything changes.
Your priorities shift. Your brain rewires.
But that old version of you doesn’t disappear.
Now you’re navigating a new identity—father, partner, provider—without a manual.
People may offer advice, but that doesn’t solve the internal tension.
Because what you’re facing isn’t a to-do list.
It’s a full-blown identity shift.
You Don’t Have to Figure This Out Alone
I’ve been there.
I’ve made mistakes.
And I’ve come out the other side with clarity and wisdom.
Now, I help men who are navigating the same storm.
You don’t have to white-knuckle your way through this.
Together, we’ll work on:
Setting meaningful, achievable goals
Creating space to be both a man and a father
Developing tools to manage time, energy, and identity
Becoming a more grounded, present, and resilient version of yourself
Fatherhood doesn’t have to break you. It can build you.
Stronger. Smarter. Wiser.
Let’s Begin with a Discovery Call
This transition doesn’t have to be overwhelming.
You’re not the only one feeling this way—and you’re not meant to figure it all out alone.
Let’s talk. No pressure. Just one conversation to see if I’m the right fit for you.